- first of all, you are sooo young. it's okay to make mistakes, and it's even more important that you can recognize that something was a mistake. since you can acknowledge that, i think you're already doing better than you or your mom think! don't beat yourself up over a one-off moment: it's easy to get caught up in what other people say to you and how they make you feel in situations like that, but what matters is how YOU think of you. do you know that you won't do it again? do you know that this doesn't define you? because you should! and that's all that matters! try not to base what you think about yourself based off of what guys on the internet tell you or what your mom tells you (i know it's tough trust me). at the end of the day, you know yourself better than anyone, and you have the power to change who you are at any moment (never forget it)! even if you don't like who you are right now or any action you did recently, you can wake up tomorrow and be completely different (if you want to). a quote i saw recently that i loved said, what you practice makes you who you are, so be careful what you practice, and i think that is so cool to think about because you have total control over it. your mom may have just reacted the way she did in the heat of the moment, but given some time to process, i'm sure she won't feel as extremely as she does right now. she knows you're just a kid and she's probably made mistakes of her own at your age! maybe tell your mom you know it was a mistake and talk about your plans for the future: chances are, she would like to help plan with you and break the ice after an argument! i don't know if you're from america or following the traditional path, but after you turn 18 i can guarantee you will be just fine! work hard in high school and you can go to college and pursue any career you want. if that's not your goal, you can go to trade school, the military, enter the workforce right away, there are truly endless opportunities! don't stress about the future too soon: spend your time being a kid, but hink about what you would love to do in the future and work hard so you have opportunities when the time comes!! everything will work out (trust me!!! it always does!!!), and don't let one poor moment dictate your future. the world is your oyster really!!!

- diva!! i'm going to be honest, i was going to write a blog post about this soon, but i didn't have a phone until i got to college actually! i've never had snap, so i don't have any personal experience with stuff like this (in part because i'm also not religious). but i definitely know all about it from my friends. wanting to express yourself in different ways totally makes sense: you are growing up and learning about yourself and new experiences, so of course you want to branch out! i think it's definitely a bit tough for those with strong opinions to accept different ways of thinking, but you get where they are coming from. if your friends are very set in their beliefs, it might have offended them a bit which makes sense why they would tell on you, but it's your life: it's up to you how you choose to live it. you won't live with your parents forever and you won't see your friends forever. it's you who's there forever (if that makes sense). be someone you want to be around! i don't know how old you are, but you're probably at the age you should be experimenting and finding out who exactly you want to be -- so do it do it do it! definitely respect your parents and your friends' individual beliefs, but maybe talk to your friends about how you're feeling: respect should be mutual, regardless of your differences in beliefs. if they don't respect you or your opinions, there are people out there who will! maybe you could try branching out of your current friend group and meet new people who think differently. it's scary to step out of your comfort zone and away from what you're used to, but even if you don't like it, it's a good learning experience to be around people who think differently than you! when you go to a new school, you'll likely meet lots of people different from you, so think of it as an exciting change instead of something to be scared of! how cool is it that you can be whoever you want to be with no expectations? in my opinion, you should be sensitive to the people you love, but also live your life on your own terms: you only get one life, so do what makes you happy )

- this is a tough one diva! honestly, chemistry irl matters so much more than anything on the phone, but at the same time: if a guy wants to be with you, he should put in the effort outside of school to talk to you! if you don't want to date him (totally reasonable) where do you want this to go? you've liked him for a while now, so i think your friend might be right -- it's probably best to take the next step or let that boy go! by take the next step, you don't have to do anything crazy. i think if you want answers, unfortunately the only way to really get them is by talking to him! boys are idiots, and he might have no clue you're interested in him (even if he really likes you). do you guys hang out outside of school? if not, ask him to hang out! maybe just go to the mall or ask to do something for halloween. it's seeming like very much mixed signals, so it's up to you to decipher them! and if you don't want to, that's a-okay: you don't have to do that much work for a boy who isn't being clear with his intentions, he should be falling over himself for you girl! so, your options as i see it are: make a move, remain friends as you are (but maybe tell him that that's all you are, so that he isn't thinking he has a chance), or cut him off totally! you don't need to be mean, but if it's ever stressing you out, you don't need that in your life. boys come and go, and there will be someone who makes it abundantly clear he is interested in you. don't waste your time with anyone who doesn't, and focus on your friendships! who knows, if you guys remain friends, it might bloom into something bigger in the future (if you really are soulmates like your friend said). for the most part, your friends (and me) don't know as much about your relationship with this guy as you do, so take all of these opinions with a grain of salt. it's up to you if you think this guy is worth your time and effort: if he's acted this flirty for years now, he needs to do something or you're going to be the one that got away! remember your worth always and don't forget it diva!! happy halloween xoxo

- girl again you're living in a movie! this is literally chris and laureli in gilmore girls LOL. it sounds like you guys had chemistry, but the sneaking out might have killed your momentum just a tad. based on what you've said, i think you should try and keep in touch. it sounds like he's a good guy for respecting your parents' decisions and encouraging you to listen to them: that is a truly attractive trait that makes for a good long-term boyfriend (at least to me). if you only see him as a good friend to talk to, then no worries! if it's meant to be later on, it will happen, but don't wait around for it. if you don't see him again, don't dwell on it and allow yourself to meet other people. if you still have feelings for him (and if you don't) i'd still try and keep in contact: while you're grounded; you can call on the phone and get to know him better (which is better than social media like snap or even text in my opinion), and i think in time, your parents will recognize how you feel and allow you to see him again. maybe you could start by asking if he could come over for dinner so they could meet him and see what you see! i don't think you need to be embarrassed, he has parents too so he's not a stranger to getting in trouble. if you need, give it time, reach back out, and be confident! if he likes you, he won't mind waiting a bit. if he is bothered, you can talk through it but if he's not understanding, forget about it! he's not worth your time girl )) p.s. just be careful on motorcycles girl! they are so so soooo dangerous no matter how safe you are: don't let a man show off for you and hurt both of you! love always <333

girl you are literally living in a movie!!! like literally this sounds straight out of "before sunrise" or "serendipity" (which i haven't seen yet but is totally on my list). in case you haven't seen it, in "before sunrise," two strangers meet on a train and decide to spend a day together and get so close so fast, talking about anything and everything. they never exchange numbers or anything, they just agree to meet in the same exact spot in six months. now, i won't tell you about the rest of the movies, but i def recommend. anyway, back to your situation! now this is just food for thought: is this guy so perfect, or did you just hang out with him for 48 hours? i think it's easy for us to build an idealized version of someone with the few good things we know. have you seen that thing that says a crush is just a lack of information LOL!! or maybe he is the most perfect man ever. i think we all have that one person we met on vacation or went on one date with and think "omg that was my soulmate." but i think that's what's so attractive about it: you're never going to see them again, and how freeing is that? on vacation, you're both the best version of yourself. you have little to no worries, you look great, and you're putting your best foot forward (for the most part). they will forever have that perfect version of you in their mind, and vice versa. i think that the reality is, if you can't find him on anything, it might be a bit tough to get in touch! if you want to still give it a try, your best bet at finding him would be posting one of those tiktoks where people are like "internet please help me find this boy i met", cross your fingers, and hope it goes viral! aside from that, i totally get it: that guy sounds AMAZING. think, what exactly did you like so much about him? chances are, someone you know in real life (or will definitely meet) will have all of those and more! you don't need to forget about him and move on, but keep him (and the things you liked about him) in mind when you meet new people instead. p.s. when i was in this exact same scenario with my camp crush a couple of years ago, i listened to "summer love" by one direction on repeat. i totallyyyyy recommend girl <333

this is a tough spot to be in! to start, are you guys good friends already? What makes you think he wouldn't like you? people may have a type, but there are always exceptions. I've also found from personal experiences that "types" are more frequently for personality traits rather than appearances. you never know if he'll give you a chance if you don't try! trust me, it's better to try something than to wonder "what if" forever. the worst that can happen is he's not interested in a relationship with you right now, but is that a bad thing? you want to be with someone who wants to be with you! if you do want to tell him how you feel, start by having casual conversations: ask him about his classes, his hobbies, his friends. once you're more comfortable being around him, try asking him to hang out or eat lunch together. small steps will let you see if you guys are compatible as friends, and then you can assess how you're feeling from there! don't fret about being nervous around him, it happens to everyone: and he's probably nervous too! as for the idea that boys think it's hard to be friends with girls that like them that the boy doesn't like: i've seen it go both ways. for one, boys are OBLIVIOUS. it doesn't matter what age. boys often don't know you like them until you straight-up say "i like you." if he does know you like him, chances are he's flattered! i'm sure that you're beautiful and kind, and any boy would be lucky to be with you. don't worry about anyone who doesn't think the same, as they aren't worth your time. i think you have a better chance than you think, and if he truly doesn't like you based on how you look, he's missing out on everything you have to offer underneath. don't stress about boys that think like that; if this boy isn't the one for you, you'll find someone who loves you inside and out! don't be afraid to take chances and remember your worth always

girl this is so relatable! trust me i've been there: i am sooo awkward around someone i like, but as you become closer you'll get more comfortable so don't worry! you totally did the right thing making a move by inviting her somewhere, so see how that goes and try and assess the vibe from there. if it gets easier and more comfortable to be around her, that's amazing! but if not, don't fret, good things take time: keep making plans and as you grow closer, make it clear how you feel. if telling her how you feel doesn't go as planned, it won't be the end of the world: my favorite quote is "love is never wasted, for its value does not rest upon reciprocity," by C.S. Lewis. Having a crush is fun, and so is having a friend (if you end up not telling her)! now about the friend liking the same girl; I totally understand why you wouldn't want to talk to her about it. when she went around telling people you like the girl, were you okay with that? a good friend wouldn't share a secret you weren't comfortable sharing. if i were you, i would ask your friend why she would tell people that and ask her to stop (if that's how you feel). and you may just want to talk to your friend to acknowledge that you like the same girl: it doesn't have to be a bad thing, and you should never ruin a good friendship over a crush. ultimately, it's up to your crush to choose who she wants to be with, so don't stress over your ":competition," because the only thing you can do is show your interest and be kind! don't worry about your crush's friendship with your friend, just focus on your friendship with your crush. you can't change other people's behavior, but you can change your own. ultimately, you can't control your feelings, and neither can your friend. be kind to each other regardless and don't be afraid to tell anyone how you feel: whether it's your crush or your friend. best of wishes with you, your friend, and your crush! remember, most things that happen today won't matter in five months or five years: don't stress too much, and enjoy this time of your life!

talk to her and be honest! from my experience, she might not know how much it's affecting you until you say something; don't hold back either because you never know what she's thinking. ask her how she's feeling too! if you talk about it and nothing is resolved, you could consider taking some space apart until you both can figure out where your priorities lie.